The Times They Are A-Changin’ in NYC and Across the Land


It’s been quite a week here in NYC and across the good ol’ USA, right?

As Bob Dylan wrote and sang so many years ago  – The Times They Are A-Changin’. Those lyrics are so appropriate for what has been happening lately. Especially in light of the Supreme Court’s decision which now legalizes gay marriage across all 50 United States. Now, as many of you know, I never, ever like to really discuss politics and religion unless it’s to poke fun. Most politicians are idiots no matter what party they are in anyway, so they are an easy target. I’m not an overly religious person to begin with. To me, it’s an evil subject matter, unless you pen a blog or column devoted to them. Then more power to you. I just see both as a subject that causes more pain, anger, and arguments than any other across the globe. So I usually steer clear.

Yet, when it comes to this I feel different. I feel as if this is a momentous decision, and one that has such a profound affect on not just this country, but the world. I want to write about it. There has been a shift in humanity. A shift in reasoning. A cause for celebration. After all, more than for political or religious reasons this is a human rights decision. One that should have been made long ago. I have always said “Live and Let Live”. It still boggles me as to why so many people get so uptight and freaked out over two people of the same sex marrying. Who cares? They aren’t hurting anyone. They aren’t hurting you. They want love, compassion, and happiness just like anyone else. No matter who they sleep with, live with, kiss, or hold hands with. No matter what a legally binding piece of paper says with their names on it. Gay or straight don’t we all want the same thing? To be happy and live in peace?


Yeah, yeah, I know all the Bible thumpers and religious zealots are screaming and whining that it’s some sort of sin, and the beginning of the end of the traditional family as dictated by divine scripture from eons ago. I have never seen so many people divided, and so much hatred spewed across the internet, Facebook, talk shows, Twitter, radio and other media outlets across the board. Yet, at the same time there has been even more of an outpouring of support and praise for what has transpired. To me, you can really distinguish the true character of a person by what they are saying about this, and by their actions. I find it ironic, if also laughable, at how these same people throwing rocks at glass houses also have multiple divorces under their belts, support these multi-millionaire preachers who keep getting caught in sex scandals, never if hardly ever go to church themselves yet quote the Bible about this, and commit all kinds of sins yet think they are pure.

Puh-leeze! These people really need to get over it and just stop. Life goes by fast and we are all here for a short time. No reason to live a life of hate. Be accepting of others. It’s really not that hard no matter what your religious or political beliefs are. Move on and worry about your own lives rather than trying to enforce your ideologies on people you don’t even know. I think we all have enough of our own problems to worry about.


I’ll step away from the pulpit now as I just wanted to get my two cents in on this matter after reading more than a few ignorant remarks on my Facebook timeline this week. It just amazes me at what comes out of some people’s mouths, and what is really in their souls. All I know is that when I came home late Sunday night from visiting family out on Long Island and walked across the city streets I looked up and saw the Empire State Building all lit up in rainbow colors.

It put a smile on my face and made me feel so proud to be living in NYC at that moment. Score one for humanity. Yes, Bob, The Times They Are A-Changin’.

28 thoughts on “The Times They Are A-Changin’ in NYC and Across the Land”

  1. I really enjoyed this. I agree with most everything you wrote. I hope my children can grow up to be accepting and loving men who do not hold on to prejudices. We are all human and that should be the bottom line. To love is to love. It should never be chastised and ridiculed.
    Great post!

    1. Hey Crystal!

      Thanks for dropping by and commenting. I am pleased you like what I wrote. I felt the need to express myself when this news hit. Sorry for the delay in replying. Just catching up now.

  2. Phil, nice post and well said. Tolerance and acceptance have been in short supply these recently. Truly if we were to truly follow God – we’d let him, or her, settle it, after, all our time on Earth is limited and the belief that there is something that awaits us after life drives some people to intolerance. Until then, the Supreme Court has decreed that we should live and let live. Love wins. Have a great fourth – New York style. Can’t wait to read about it!

  3. Yes, agree with you completely. You probably know this from reading my blog. But what says it so perfectly is that church sign. So many people take this attitude of “do as I say, not as I do”. Fix your own self first, I say.

    1. Hey Karen!

      Yes, many out there need to fix themselves first for sure. To many pass judgement and cast stones for no reason. Some should really look in the mirror long and hard.

  4. Such a great post, Phil! I’ve been biting my tongue every day as I see hate spew across my Facebook feed. The times that I have spoken out, I have been met with more hate. My philosophy is this: if you don’t have something nice to say, don’t say anything at all. Promote what you love without bashing what you hate. It’s really that simple. I for one, think that the Supreme Court is finally catching up with the times and I’m very glad that my cousin’s same-sex marriage will be legal. It’s a human rights issue, not a religious one. People use religion to promote an agenda. It’s easy to continue to hate things that make you uncomfortable with a scapegoat like religion. “The Bible says marriage is between a man and a woman.” Yeah, it also warns not to eat shellfish, talks about having multiple wives, and advises to beat a woman who is made “impure” because of rape. It’s easy to pick and choose what pieces of Christianity (or any religion) to use to fit a particular agenda and ignore the completely outdated pieces that have become acceptable. Live and let live. The only decisions anyone should be worried about are their own.

    1. Hey Jessica!

      Sorry for the late reply. Yes, I noticed so many hateful comments on social networks when the news came out. People really need to stop using religion as a means to force their agenda and lifestyle on others. People need to stop being so narrow minded and self righteous. Live and let live.

  5. Yes, yes, YES! This needed to be said! I have several gay freinds and I am so happy for them because now they can FINALLY get married and share the equal rights they have ALWAYS deserved to have. At last, our country did something right for a change. Kudos to you for writing this post, Phil! #LoveWins

    1. Hey Marcia!

      So glad you liked! Yes, its about time our country got with the times. So many are still against it though and just keep hating. Love Wins in the end.

  6. My Facebook has also fallen victim to some very negative remarks on this subject. I could certainly think of a lot more important issues on the table for these people to be angry about, but I’m going to fuel their crazy ass fire.

    Great post and well said! Enjoy your 4th

    1. Hey Lisa!

      Thanks! Yeah, social networks were ablaze that day. Mostly good but still so many hating. It’s amazing how people just can’t let other people live their lives the way they want. Hope you had a great July 4th.

  7. What a great post! I really don’t get how anyone can be against same-sex marriage and it’s great to see public institutions taking a stand.

    1. Hey Mitzie!

      So glad you enjoyed! Yes, in this day and age we as societies need to move forward and make the right decisions. They got this one right.

  8. Oh my goodness Yes!! I agree with you 100%. I am a Christian woman and many of my church friends disagree with me but I fully supported the Supreme Courts decision. Who are we to judge? My God is a loving God and loves all sinners such as myself. My gay friends deserve to be happy and to be married and I couldn’t be happier for them!

    1. Hey Holli!

      That is correct! Everyone deserves the right to be happy. It’s amazing how many people spoke out against gay marriage. Especially since most have sinned quite a few times themselves. Such narrow minded thinking out there. Glad our country made the right decision.

  9. I really enjoyed this post. I agree with you and couldn’t of said it better. People just don’t have anything better to do than to pick on someone who has nothing to do with them. I have family and friends who now can get married. When I don’t know if the paper really means that much as just being happy to say it out loud.

    1. Hey Patricia!

      Thanks, and glad you enjoyed it! Sure, it’s just a piece of paper but it’s the meaning behind it for gay couples. They are recognized as equals to straight couples now and have the same right to be happy.

  10. I can tell from the passion in your writing Phil this is something that you feel strongly about.

    There are many injustices and perverse things in this world. That is how people created the world and do today, whether through the cloak of religion, “justice”, rights, greed or the need for survival.

    I also agree with your points about politicians and leaders etc. If people choose to put themselves up in the public eye they have to accept criticism.

    1. Hey Guy!

      Yes, this was something I felt a need to discuss here. I have friends of all kinds and backgrounds and preferences. I accept them all as equals. When this decision was announced it triggered so much joy, and also so much hate. It was an amazing thing to see. All I know is that this was about time. We live in a different world. People need to stop hiding behind religion and using it to justify narrow minded viewpoints and opinions. Let people live and be happy.

      Thanks for readingand commenting.

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