Eating alone with my meandering thoughts in NYC


Sometimes I like to dine alone. Not that I don’t have anyone to eat with and not because I hate people. Well, sometimes I do. Depends on the actions and the people involved. It’s just that sometimes in a city of 8.3 million people I enjoy a moment of solitude away from it all. There are times when I just want to grab a newspaper, read what’s going on in the world, and not converse with anyone. I like to hideaway in one of the local diners with a cup of joe where no one will bother me other than to take my order. I find eating alone almost therapeutic and relaxing. No pressure to babble on about mundane daily things or to partake in any chit chat. Just me, my coffee, my meal, and the paper. That’s all the companionship I need when the feeling to be along hits me. Now, don’t get me wrong as I love being around my friends and loved ones when eating out or going to a bar, but when you are surrounded my millions of people each and every day there comes a time when you just want to be alone for a bit. I have always been a very independent person and been on my lonesome many times throughout my life so having a bite to eat by myself is no big deal. It’s funny the reactions I receive when I tell people this. From shock to amusement. Some feel the same as I do, and there are others who freak out when it comes to dining alone. So many people I speak to have the same fear of going out to a restaurant by themselves as to speaking in public. I don’t understand what the big deal is. Bring something to read or a small laptop to use. Many places have free wifi nowadays. Pass the time while noshing away and surfing the net. Just turn down the volume if watching porn. Most people seem to get a bit weirded out by the creepy dude with all the sex noises coming from his table.


I think women have more resistance to dining solo than men do. Even some of the most confident women I know will draw the line when it comes to going out for a meal by themselves. Maybe it’s a bit awkward for them. Personally, I feel these people are missing out on a chance to exhale a bit and unwind in the comfort of their own temporary aloneness. After all, life will go right back to being among others along with the hustle and bustle of everyday routines. Chill out, go have a burger, an omelet, or a salad in peace and be happy to have some alone time once in a while. Nothing wrong with taking yourself out on a date for some self love!

To all my lady friends who stalk me on this blog – What is your take on this subject? Eating alone – yea or nea?

On to my observations over some things I read over dinner by myself. Remember, objects in mirror may be closer than they appear!


What is up with our new Mayor eating pizza with a knife and fork? Are you friggin’ kidding me? No self respecting New Yorker eats pizza with a fork! Pick up the damn slice and eat it with your hands. Fold it, caress it, make sweet love to it as it enters your mouth, but for the love of God do not eat a slice of pizza with a fork! Amateur! Someone punch him in the throat, please. Even our billionaire ex-Mayor did not stoop to that low of daintiness.

Philip Seymour Hoffman. RIP. It is so sad to see anyone die because of drugs, and the demons that accompany anyone caught up in them. Drug addiction affects everyone when something like this happens such as friends and family. So much talent wasted, and now another soul gone too soon because of drugs. Yet, I wonder if the authorities would be so all out diligent to find and jail his drug dealer if he wasn’t rich and famous. Why aren’t they going after these same people with equal urgency when poor unknown Joe Schmoe overdoses with a needle in his or her arm. Really makes one think about the fairness of it all, but I guess life is not fair when it comes to the well known affluent community as compared to those who toil in anonymity with their problems.


The Olympic games in Sochi. Honestly, I have hardly watched or paid attention. I kind of find the Olympics boring. Even with the big hockey win by the USA over Russia it still has not grabbed me as the games have in the past. To me the most entertaining part of these Olympics have been the reporters’ tweets and pictures on the less then desirable housing conditions they have been stuck in. Some of these Twitter updates and images have been hysterical. What was the Olympic committee in Russia doing these last four years? They knew it was coming. Where did all the money go that was earmarked for this? The most ever spent. What? Not into the Olympic housing infrastructure that’s for sure. Maybe lining someone’s pockets? Hmmm? I call shenanigans!

Then there is the constant coverage of the weather. Yes, it’s winter. Yes, we are all sick of the snow. Yes, we want Spring to hurry up and arrive. Yes, we want to strangle that groundhog for predicting six more weeks of winter. If I see one more news article on the snow I am going to set the newspaper’s headquarters on fire and have the city’s largest marshmallow roast. Bring your sticks everyone!

Ok, what is it with the Westminster Dog Show? I am a dog lover and will tune in to watch a few minutes of this show if I am home, but it just gets ridiculous to watch a little pocketbook sized dog win best in show almost every year. Nothing against the little guys but how about naming a German Shepherd best in show, or a Golden Retriever, or even an Alaskan Husky? Show the big guys some love too. We all kind of assume the judges and organization are very froo-froo about what dogs they prefer representing them, along with the politics involved behind the scenes, so I guess it will always be the same. I’ll eat a dog biscuit if I ever see them name a Great Dane best in show!


I just read that a 17 foot 8 inch python was killed in Florida. Whoa! Now, my parents live down there in Ocala, and I visit a few times a year and can attest to some of the prehistoric sized mutant bugs I encounter. Must be all that heat and humidity. I have also come across a few snakes but this one is just insane. Must have been someone’s pet that they discarded which then fed on small animals and grew gigantic. Seems sad to kill it though, but from what I gather they are having a problem controlling the amount of these snakes invading the area. Knowing the weirdness that is Florida it wouldn’t surprise me if they are slithering up through some sort of chasm from the center of the planet akin to “Journey to the Center of the Earth”!

What is wrong with people nowadays? I just read about this on-line binge drinking game called Neknominate that is basically “drink and dare” until you die. As readers of this blog you all know I love to eat well and drink a good beer or cocktail. I will admit to drinking a few too many now and then. Yet, if you choose to partake in this idiocy then you really have a problem, especially if it lands you in a hospital or in a coffin. So far up to five deaths can be attributed to this game according to reports. To me, a touch of death takes all the fun out of drinking! I’m happy with a good buzz, thank you.

If you are a fan of the movie “A Christmas Story” the news of a boy in Massachusetts who attempted to reenact the famous scene of getting his tongue stuck on a frozen pole will warm your hearts. I always wondered if anyone tried to do this. I bet the rescue crew that was called to show up and pour hot water on the kid’s tongue to free him had a few laughs. All ended well though as they declared him fine and sent him back to class. Just remember “you’ll shoot your eye out kid”!

funny-pictures-auto-corndog-guy-376607Well, I’m done with dinner now. I might be doing this dining along thing by myself anyway for the next few weeks as my gal is away staying with her parents. Lots of stuff to read and pontificate on. Doesn’t bother me but I will admit I’d rather have her with me. In just this first week alone our apartment is a mess. Ah, the life of being a bachelor again. At least I can sit naked on the couch and not get smacked upside the head! I also better clean this place up before she gets back!

50 thoughts on “Eating alone with my meandering thoughts in NYC”

  1. The photo at the top definitely says “meandering thoughts”.

    And “leave me the hell alone!”

    I suspect that your new Mayor will display much “daintiness” in the coming years.

  2. That meme of the husky calling his master a fucking asshole is the absolute best thing on the entire internet. I love it so hard. And I’ve been rooting for the big dogs to win the Dog Show for as long as I’ve been watching the Dog Show. Screw those pansy ass little ankle munchers!

    1. Hey Teri!

      I love that meme! His face is perfect for it. I’m all for the big dogs even though I love all kinds of dogs. Still, enough with the little yippy dogs winning!

    1. Hey Jill!

      I’ll check out your post. Nothing wrong with a little alone time now and then. I consider it a mini vacation from society at times.

  3. Yes, I’m with you about having some alone time once in a while. But eating out alone, particularly in the evenings, can feel a bit weird, even for a male. A few weeks ago, on the way home from a night out with a few mates, I stopped off at an Indian restaurant for a curry. It was interesting the looks I attracted (and I wasn’t that pissed!). I got the impression people thought I was a child-molester, or some other kind of pervert.

    1. Hey Gary!

      Well, that’s their problem then. Maybe people feel weird when someone eats alone near them. That, or maybe you really were drunk and drooling!

  4. I eat lunch alone almost every Tuesday at my favorite little Mediterranean restaurant. (Every once in a while on a Tuesday, I get to hang with our girl, Beth) My daughter is in school, so I can just relax with a good book and check out for a while. I don’t get on twitter or facebook. I keep my phone out just in case the school calls, but other than that, I’m completely disconnected. On some Tuesdays when I don’t feel like having lunch out, I go to a movie. I love to be alone, to do things by myself, and frankly, I don’t really see the point in watching a movie with another person. I mean, you can’t talk about it or anything until after anyway, but all of my friends think I’m a bit of a freak. So, anyway, add me to your poll, and let me know if I’m the only lady who relishes in my solitary time.

    That corndog pic….I mean….

    1. Hey Mandi!

      Sometimes it is good to disconnect. I bring a magazine or a newspaper and chill out over a meal. I have also done the solo movie thing. It’s so much better when you don’t have to share the popcorn!

      1. Exactly, Phil. And I can get as much butter as I want, and nobody bitches about it. I think I’ll go see something this week. It’s been too long.

  5. It is a rather odd female quirk. Luckily, one I don’t possess. I prefer eating alone merely because of the way I eat. Mathair’s told me time and time again that my relationship with food is inappropriate, but is there any other kind of relationship to have with food? No! I make weird noises when I eat, weird faces, and most of them could be misconstrued as erotic. I prefer dining with men due to the fact that women are much too judgmental about what is ordered and how it’s consumed. The only women that really understand my culinary rituals are Mathair and my Nana… and even they have a problem eating with me. LOL. Women are… odd creatures, but I never understood why they always go to the bathroom in packs. That’s probably another post for another time though. Mathair and I are far too tomboy-ish to side with the majority on this one, Phil. And, though we’re not New Yorkers, Mathair’s married to one and I’m half Italian, so eating Pizza with anything other than your hands, (so you can slop up the grease or sauce that drips) is just weird.

    1. Hey Inion/Mathair!

      Sounds like you really dig into your meals!

      Yeah, I have heard that about women and food. Judgemental sirens! I’d rather feast with a woman that has no qualms about eating big! Also, yes, pizza is a hand food. Period!

  6. I’ve only eaten alone a handful of times. For some reason it just feels awkward and that people are staring at me. Even though they aren’t… or are they? I feel like I’m eating too fast or too slow. And, then what do I do while I wait to order, for my food to get there, the check to arrive? Maybe I’ll get the hang of it one day!

    1. Hey Mandi!

      Bring something to read. That’s what I do. No one is staring at you. Just keep your head down, read, and enjoy the meal during some alone time. Plsy with your phone too. You’ll get the hang of it.

  7. I wouldn’t eat alone outside of the house, just too uncomfortable. And it’s a good thing I don’t, imagine what people would think if I ate my pizza with a fork and knife (neither confirming nor denying.

  8. Hi Phil, I’m with you on the eating alone thing too. Just taking some time out and be with your own thoughts.

    Also why is eating together always have to be deemed the social thing to do? Some people are noisy or disgusting eaters. Eat like pigs, chew with their mouth open, talk with food in their mouth, slurp their drinks. And just generally being ignorant of people around them.

    As you know I travel a lot so have lots of opportunities to eat alone. After doing this for years I choose not to eat out alone every night. If I can I get room service or eat in my room. The main reason is that it is such a hassle. Very time consuming as you can be waiting half an hour for them to bring you the bill!

    I also think it is not very healthy. All those large portions and if you’ve little discipline you can wolf it down without sticking to small portion sizes. And what do they put into that stuff?

    Wow that is one monster size snake!

    1. Hey Guy!

      Same here, as I travel on biz a bit and find myself either dining alone or taking out a client. I like to eat alone when in different cities so I can check out different places as I am a foodie for sure. Personally, I find most room service lacking in food quality so I avoid it.

      As for the portions that’s why I must go to the gym a lot!

  9. I love your free feeling on eating alone, you make it sound like a spa day. I think women have an issue with it because they fear the thought of “Oh, poor thing doesn’t have a man in her life.” Some of the strongest women still have this old school thought process…it is bizarre.
    The husky meme….seriously…..HILARIOUS! That face is the best “your an asshole” face ever!
    Now you better clean that joint up before your lady gets home…go… git.

  10. Great post! I don’t know anyone else who could combine the mayor’s pizza fails, olympic housing fails, and the Westminster Dog Show. And naked couching. (Your lady has my sympathy on that one.)

    As far as eating alone, as an exec overseeing departments across the country and internationally, I used to travel quite a bit on business. And it was true way too often that a woman going solo into a nice place could end up with a table in outer Siberia, sandwiched between the kitchen and the bathroom. My boss had a PA with an incredibly posh British accent, so I used to get her to call in the dinner reservations for “Ms. Taub”. My treatment was dramatically better. So yeah, misogynistic gender bias is alive and well among the ranks of maitre d’s.

    1. Hey Barb!

      Thanks for the compliment. Yes, this was a jumble of a post!

      I still go through that as a single diner sometimes and refuse the table and ask for a better one. I think they think we want to be hidden away from all the other couples and groups eating together. All I want is a tasty meal!

  11. I just started to dine alone last year. I initially did it to step away from my fear of dining solo and then realized that I really liked my quiet alone time! So I did it again. This time I brought a little notebook with me so I could write. I couldn’t believe how comfortable it felt to just sit, enjoy a meal and write my thoughts away at my little table for one. I need to do that more often despite the “just you” looks received from waitresses.

    1. Hey Jessica!

      Sometimes I bring my small laptop or a notebook to write down my blog post ideas and observations. Nothing like eating alone to help get the creativity going! Don’t mind the stange looks.

  12. I guess that makes you somewhat of an introvert, Phil, which I wouldn’t have guessed right off the bat. But then, being an introvert does not mean you don’t like people.

    I’m an introvert myself, which means that I have no problem whatsoever eating alone. In fact, I enjoy it and do it every once in a while. Nothing better than some peace and quiet to re-energize.

    1. Hey Suzanne!

      Actually, I an quite the extrovert. I work in ad sales for a living, travel to see clients, attend many events, mingle at tons of Yelp parties, etc.

      But like you, I do enjoy some alone time once in a while. Sometimes we need it to relax and disconnect if just for a bit. Seems like you are confident enough to dine alone now and then which is good.

  13. I do not mind one bit going out to eat by myself. When we go as a family I go to their favorite places which aren’t my favorite places. So I’m not compromising when I take myself out. My favorite dine alone spot is going to get sushi. But I’ll would do it in a big restaurant too – breakfast lunch or dinner it doesn’t matter. I either read or people watch.

    Side note: I got my tongue stuck on an ice tray once. For the life of me I cannot figure out WHY I put my tongue on it in the first place. My great-grandmother had metal ice trays. She also called her refrigerator an “ice box”.

    1. Hey Kenya!

      Sometimes I go eat sushi alone and sit right at the sushi counter. Fun to watch it made there too and it keep one occupied when dining alone. It’s nice to treat yourself once on a while.

      We also had those metal ice trays in our old fridge growing up. I use to love those. As for your tongue – HAHAHA!

  14. I quite enjoy eating out alone. In fact, I go to movies by myself during the day all the time. There’s something very freeing about it, not to mention it feels independent and I like that. I also think I enjoy being alone more than the average person. I can be alone for days…weeks and be just fine. I do value time with friends, of course, but I don’t need people as often as it seems others do.

    BTW – you have the best memes! They’re hysterical!

    and damn you’re hot….

    1. Hey Beth!

      So cool to hear you are ok with being alone. It’s been a mixed bag here with replies. The solo movie thing I do too. I don’t mind it at all. Especially when you want to see something no one else does.

      Glad you like to goofy pics I find. Also, flattered that you thing I’m hot! Blushing.

  15. I don’t mind eating alone – I usually end up enjoying a few meals on my own when I’m traveling. I would say that it’s not something I call “relaxing” though. I much prefer a glass of wine/coffee and book on a quiet morning in my apartment. Call me old fashioned 🙂

    1. Hey Steph!

      I do the same when traveling on biz. A meal, glass of wine, newspaper, laptop always makes dining alone easy. Nothing wrong with flying solo now and then.

  16. It s been a while since the last time I ate out alone, now that you mention it Phil… Will have to catch up with myself on that point!!! …
    Great post I enjoyed you photo at the top and also the pics of the whole pizza and the corndog and its surroundings. Giggles as usual, Phil.
    Thanks for spreading your good vibes,
    Best wishes, Aquileana 😉

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  17. I like traveling alone once in a while (and just like in your solo-dining case, it isn’t because nobody wants to travel with me), -I just really, really enjoy some time on my own once in a while. When I travel alone, I also eat alone, which I don’t mind either. Sometimes, when you dine in a group or as a couple, you don’t get the chance to really appreciate the food, as you are too busy talking.
    Sorry to hear that you’re single now, but I guess that’s great news for NYC’s bachelorettes;)

    1. Hey Mitzi!

      I knew you would relate since you travel a lot. Even though I enjoy taking clients out I like to also go out on my own and explore different places to eat. The foodie in me!

      I’m not single! My gal is away at her parents for a few weeks. So I am flying solo for a while and behaving myself!

  18. Now if I stayed inside on the nights I had to eat alone while in Hanoi some years ago, I would have missed out on some of the best meals of my life! Ditto then (though not as great food) as I did travel alone to Hong Kong. Now if a white blonde didn’t look conspicuous there…and I did it… I figure I can make my way about Philadelphia, DC, or New York enjoying a meal alone.

    My only fear, eating alone that is, the second of the two most embarrassing things in my life at a bar, restaurant (see #1 as part of the comment on your current post), thinking they had already loosened the meat from my lobster- I stuck my fork in and somehow managed to fling the lobster over to the next table. (have ya got a cartoon photo on that scene?!!!)

    Pizza, What universe is your new Mayor from? Certainly not any continent I know of where people eat any version of pizza this way. Please keep us posted on his fried chicken and bbq ribs eating habits.

    The drinking game- scares me to death.

    The tongue frozen on the pole- scares me to death- I always feared his tongue would get ripped out.

    and your other paragraphs in between, I don’t have ten minutes to scroll all the way back up those comments to check it out. Still, and above all, do a good job cleaning up that apartment for your gal!

    1. Hey Peggy!

      That lobster flinging must have been a funny scene!

      It is true that sometimes if you stay in and eat room service you could be passing up on a great meal!

      Actually, I just finished cleaning up the place. Well, as much as I could. It’s passable.

  19. Hey Phil! I’m a girl and I don’t mind eating alone in a casual environment ‘cos then I can read a book and play with my phone on one hand and eat rather nicely with the other. I wouldn’t be able to do that in polite society!

    I prefer to go to the cinema solo though ‘cos then I can watch blockbuster crap AND all the commercials, in peace!

    1. Hey Victoria!

      That’s what I pretty much do when dining alone. Phone or newspaper. Catch up on the news, gossip, and world events. Oh, who am I kidding. I surf the net and play on Facebook. 🙂

  20. I dine alone and love it. But I do know a fair share of folks who can’t/don’t/won’t do it for various reasons. The only thing I worry about when eating alone is hoping that no one is watching me stuff my food into my mouth like a truck driver. That being said, I think the Olympics are boring, too. And eating pizza with a fork and knife is insane. Is the NYC mayor human?!

    1. Hey Cowboys!

      Even if you were dining with others I would stil watch you stuff your mouth like a truck driver! Sexy!

      We need to train our mayor on how to be a New Yorker. Amateur!

  21. I think I will have to take myself on a dinner/lunch date soon. I think women do feel apprehensive to actually go out alone, but the times I have done that I have allowed myself to interact with other people and meet new friends so you never know. I think it is a healthy thing to do to actually unwind by yourself and want to be alone.

    You crack me up with these pictures you always seem to find! I also didn’t care for the Olympics especially when I don’t have a live TV I can watch. I think I would care more about them if someone I knew was going or something.

    Aww look at you Phil! Missing the bachelor life.. which honestly it is good but I think it’s better when you have someone to share your life with and I’m sure you are loving that 🙂

    1. Hey Bella!

      More power to you if you can go out for a meal alone and actually make some friends! Yes, sometimes it’s a way to unwind when going for a solo bite.

      Yeah, the Olympics are cool but I am just not into watching hours of sports that I don’t really care for.

      Oh yeah, it is always better when you have a great person to spend your life with. No doubt.

  22. Hey Phil,

    Man, can you blog! I can’t keep up!

    I like to dine alone. Not always and not often, ha ha, but when it happens I enjoy it and usually use it as time to write…sometimes read. Now, going to a movie alone might be another story.

    This drinking game things is driving me nuts. My son is graduating this year and a lot of his peer group are posting their boozing antics on facebook. It’s painful to watch…downing a bottle (or two!!) of Fireball Whiskey through a tube and then a few beers to top it off. It’s awful. Luckily, my son thinks they’re idiots.

    Hope your girlfriend is back soon to look after you! ;0)

    1. Hey Hazy!

      What can I say? I have gotten the blogging bug! I have a lot to write about, and more to come!

      I also use my along time to write and will find spots with wifi to use. Sounds like your son has a good head on his shoulders. I drank and partied in school too but not like this!

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