Every once in a while I receive requests for guest posting on The Regular Guy NYC. Most I have to turn down as they have no real connection to my readers or vibe of my blog. This one just struck my fancy, and they were more than happy to word it to apply to the NYC dating scene. I am sure we have seen tv commercials for this service. With the craziness of dating in NYC this might be another way to connect with people. Give it a read and let me know what you think.
– Phil
Single NYC Guys May Be Ahead of the Curve When It Comes to Online Dating
I think we can all agree that trying to navigate the dating scene in NYC is a lot of work.
Sure, it’s easy to find a hookup at any number of bars or clubs throughout the city, but if you’re looking to actually establish a deeper connection with someone (or maybe even a serious relationship eventually), that’s probably not the best way to go about doing it.
How many times can you take a girl to the top of the Empire State Building or walk across the Brooklyn Bridge or take a stroll through Central Park? How many $15 cocktails and $100 dinners do you have to spend on a girl before you realize that you don’t have as much in common with her as you originally thought?
Interestingly, more and more guys across the U.S. are moving outside of their comfort zones and starting to look beyond the local neighborhood dating pool. In an increasingly digital world, instead of searching for “the girl next door,” guys in NYC are choosing to connect with women across borders via modern technology to find potential matches—whether in different states or different countries. These guys understand that getting to know people from diverse cultures and backgrounds is an important aspect of everyday life, and it’s pretty much common knowledge at this point that online dating is one of the most time-efficient ways to narrow down options in hopes of finding “the one,” or at least someone you wouldn’t mind developing some kind of bond with aside from just the sex.
New York City actually tops the list of U.S. cities with residents who choose to look for love overseas: just within the past month, single New York men have logged onto a leading international dating website over 31,000 times (Los Angeles held the No. 1 spot in previous months). For the men and women who are involved, the opportunity to have a cross-cultural relationship through modern technology can be both stabilizing and life-changing—something that guys in New York seem to clearly understand. New Yorkers should feel good about this, because according to a recent Harris Interactive survey, guys who date internationally tend to be more worldly and tech-savvy, as well as have higher salaries, than those who only date in and around their neighborhoods (that sure doesn’t hurt your chances of getting the girl!).
Whether you’re dating online or in person, there are a couple of simple tips that you can remember to improve the likelihood of establishing a real connection with someone—or, at the very least, have a memorable and enjoyable date. Practice the art of conversation online to eliminate the nerves that come with physical attraction. This will give you a better understanding of a person before meeting them, and it also reveals if you have something in common before bringing physicality into the mix.
Additionally, engage the person you’re talking with by making eye contact, listening and asking questions that show you’re paying attention and not just worried about the sports game you might be missing on TV. Move at your own pace, but keep the lines of communication open. Don’t be afraid to express yourself if things are moving too fast instead of simply ending it altogether. Most importantly, exude confidence: be sure of yourself, but don’t come across as cocky, and have fun. If you follow these rules, you’ll have a text message asking to plan the next date before your head hits the pillow at the end of the night.
By Daria German: dating expert for AnastasiaDate who specializes in online dating, international dating and increased awareness of the importance of establishing cross-cultural relationships.
( I was in no way paid or compensated for placing this post. I just thought it would be an interesting subject and point of view as I have many friends in the NYC dating pool often having mixed results out there. The NYC dating scene is not an easy thing to maneuver! )
Whats with the little pyramid hand point by “dating expert”? What exactly make her a dating expert? the fact that she looks like a supermodel?
Hey Gillian!
LOL! Maybe it’s some sort of special code symbol. Got me. I just thought it would be an interesting subject to cover here as NYC is a tough dating scene for many.
It’s a great post subject for any city or country…
Hello Gillian!
It is an interesting subject as we all have been in the dating pool at one tim or another.
Some of my friends call it a “dating cesspool”!
Interesting article Phil.
I am someone who has travelled the world many times. I’ve dated both locally and internationally (not at the same time!). Meeting people/potential partners can be an enriching experience but you really have to get to know the culture. If you don’t then you’ll be in for some big shocks. Go in with your eyes open.
Long distance relationships are hard to make work and travelling to meet up is required. Be prepared for the joys and pains of a long distance relationship.
As for the hottest / best dressed girls in the world? I’d say the women in Melbourne, Australia are hard to beat.
Fair play to you Phil for allowing this unpaid post.
Hello Guy!
I bet you have met many honeys in your wordly travel and dating exploits! I just thought this would be an interesting subject to cover since the dating scene here in NYC is rough from what I am told. They offered to guest post it so I offered a spot on my blog.
Thanks for reading and commenting, as you have a unique view on this subject, and lived it.
I think that whether you’re dating or not, a lot of interpersonal communication when you’re physically with someone is just being lost. It’s important to remember how to engage in the real world.
Hi Karen!
So true. With technology nowadays many people just don’t know how to actually speak to each other with out texting or email. I actually find many people to be socially inept in this dating era.
Believe it or not, dating is that sucky in Alaska! Probably because of it’s geographic isolation and the ratio of men to women (too many weird guys, and not enough lonely women). Great information tho! I loved it. 🙂 And it made me even happier that I met my Benevolent Benefactor, even if he drives me nuts 90% of the time. 😀
Hey Terrye!
I have always heard it is bad in Alaska! Not that many people and way more men than women. Some chicks might dig that ratio though! Unless the guys are too weird!
I’m so glad that it has been a long time since I have had to date 🙂 With all the advances in technology everything is so different! Interesting article!
Hey Foodie!
It definitely is a different dating scene nowadays. As much as technology has helped I think it has also hampered people’s dating skills too. Many people just don’t know how to communicate with each other without the use of an electronic device. Some can’t even hold conversations on a human level!
Yes, interesting article and Guest Post.
Hey Peggy!
I decided to mix it up a bit and offer a different kind of read. Thanks for checking it out.
The picture from “Whose line is it anyway” was really very hilarious. It was also a awesome post to read Daria. Thanks for sharing!!!
Hello Louay,
Thanks for dropping by and commenting! I thought it would be an interesting subject to feature.
Online daing wasnt for me. But it sure made for some great stories!
Hey Mo!
I know right? I have heard so many crazy online dating stories from you all. We should write a book!
Dating in San Francisco is equally as hard! I like the idea of looking outside of your “comfort zone,” though. I think it keeps things interesting and hey, you never know!
xoxo,
Jules of Canines & Couture
http://www.caninesandcouture.com
Hey Jules!
I did not realize it would be that hard there too. True, I think many people need to search outsidfe of their comfort zones to date. Lots of interesting people in the world. Still, beware of the date site creepers! 🙂
Technology does two things for dating: It can be either EXTREMELY annoying or it can be a life saver. I was at work the other day and one of the guys who was clearly married tried hitting on one of the cashiers. The girl just kept her head down and kept texting or doing whatever and every now and then, she would lift her head up and give a slight laugh and go back to her phone. I thought it was funny because he wasn’t catching the hint; even worse, I think one time she laughed at the same time he was trying to be funny, and he thought she was laughing at him but she laughing at her text. This was happening at my table while I was eating. Funny part, the t.v. was on, right in front of my face but that whole situation was WAY more enjoyable. lol
Hey Dean!
It is always funny to watch a moron crash and burn, isn’t it? Sometimes I do the same thing with my phone when surrounded by people I don’t want to talk to. Especially if solicitors are on the NYC sidewalks
When I lived in Manhattan, I once dated across borders: a couple of gals from Brooklyn. Despite the inevitable language and cultural differences, we got along pretty well. 🙂
Hey Astro!
That Brooklyn place is such a far away land! How did you manage that?