Every once in a while I receive requests for guest posting on The Regular Guy NYC. Most I have to turn down as they have no real connection to my readers or vibe of my blog. This one just struck my fancy, and they were more than happy to word it to apply to the NYC dating scene. I am sure we have seen tv commercials for this service. With the craziness of dating in NYC this might be another way to connect with people. Give it a read and let me know what you think.
Single NYC Guys May Be Ahead of the Curve When It Comes to Online Dating
I think we can all agree that trying to navigate the dating scene in NYC is a lot of work.
Sure, it’s easy to find a hookup at any number of bars or clubs throughout the city, but if you’re looking to actually establish a deeper connection with someone (or maybe even a serious relationship eventually), that’s probably not the best way to go about doing it.
How many times can you take a girl to the top of the Empire State Building or walk across the Brooklyn Bridge or take a stroll through Central Park? How many $15 cocktails and $100 dinners do you have to spend on a girl before you realize that you don’t have as much in common with her as you originally thought?
Interestingly, more and more guys across the U.S. are moving outside of their comfort zones and starting to look beyond the local neighborhood dating pool. In an increasingly digital world, instead of searching for “the girl next door,” guys in NYC are choosing to connect with women across borders via modern technology to find potential matches—whether in different states or different countries. These guys understand that getting to know people from diverse cultures and backgrounds is an important aspect of everyday life, and it’s pretty much common knowledge at this point that online dating is one of the most time-efficient ways to narrow down options in hopes of finding “the one,” or at least someone you wouldn’t mind developing some kind of bond with aside from just the sex.
New York City actually tops the list of U.S. cities with residents who choose to look for love overseas: just within the past month, single New York men have logged onto a leading international dating website over 31,000 times (Los Angeles held the No. 1 spot in previous months). For the men and women who are involved, the opportunity to have a cross-cultural relationship through modern technology can be both stabilizing and life-changing—something that guys in New York seem to clearly understand. New Yorkers should feel good about this, because according to a recent Harris Interactive survey, guys who date internationally tend to be more worldly and tech-savvy, as well as have higher salaries, than those who only date in and around their neighborhoods (that sure doesn’t hurt your chances of getting the girl!).
Whether you’re dating online or in person, there are a couple of simple tips that you can remember to improve the likelihood of establishing a real connection with someone—or, at the very least, have a memorable and enjoyable date. Practice the art of conversation online to eliminate the nerves that come with physical attraction. This will give you a better understanding of a person before meeting them, and it also reveals if you have something in common before bringing physicality into the mix.
Additionally, engage the person you’re talking with by making eye contact, listening and asking questions that show you’re paying attention and not just worried about the sports game you might be missing on TV. Move at your own pace, but keep the lines of communication open. Don’t be afraid to express yourself if things are moving too fast instead of simply ending it altogether. Most importantly, exude confidence: be sure of yourself, but don’t come across as cocky, and have fun. If you follow these rules, you’ll have a text message asking to plan the next date before your head hits the pillow at the end of the night.
By Daria German: dating expert for AnastasiaDate who specializes in online dating, international dating and increased awareness of the importance of establishing cross-cultural relationships.
( I was in no way paid or compensated for placing this post. I just thought it would be an interesting subject and point of view as I have many friends in the NYC dating pool often having mixed results out there. The NYC dating scene is not an easy thing to maneuver! )